That moment when you're scrolling through your feed and you see that amazingly successful and beautiful business guru doing her thing. Again, you think…She has it all and she keeps achieving more. What does she have that I don’t? Why can’t I have that kind of success? Let me tell you friend, we all have been there. But here is the thing, it’s not helping you achieve your vision. In this episode we are talking about the 3 comparison traps many creatives and leaders face no matter what phase of business we are in.
I want to talk about the hard stuff so we can finally put it to rest and lean into our own superpower when the comparison shows up uninvited. So, let’s look at them together.
#1 Vision Leaping
Vision leaping is when we spend our time, energy and resources on someone else’s vision. This can happen when we learn from someone like in a course or a book. We think, I want what they have and maybe if I do what they did I can achieve the same results as them. The reality is that we all have our own path and when we do this the outcome is never the same. Why? Because your purpose and passions are different. You are here to serve in a unique way, so another will never be the answer. I do think it’s great to learn and be inspired from a mentor or teacher you respect. But when we think copy/paste we often find ourselves lost and confused as to why it didn’t work for us.
#2 Comparing Your Beginning to Someone Else’s Peak
When we embark on our purpose journey, we can often find someone who is doing something similar to what we set out to do ourselves. This can be motivating in seeing it be done successfully, however, it can also throw us off track. We can get trapped in looking at how they are successful and see all the marketing, celebrations, money, you name it. We see them doing the thing and we want to have it too. In my business, this has looked like creating too many courses or trying to look so perfect that I spend way too much of my time on creating content and tweaking my website that I end up working very little with the people I’m wanting to impact. It is key to remember that the successful person you are comparing yourself to has been on their journey for a while. Sometimes it’s helpful to scroll way down their feed to see their beginning. But the ultimate way is to stay in your own lane, remain focused on your vision and mission and let those comparisons spark you into action.
#3 Too Much Is Too Much
Another trap that happens too so many in the coaching world and with creatives is we try to serve everyone. We see an offering someone else has and think I can do that. Or we see all the types of people we can serve and never land on that one unique client we want to serve day in and out. So, we serve everyone. The challenge is we ended up confusing our possible clients and students. We can’t be everything to everyone. Know your superpower and stick with it. Let it evolve and don’t try and be every leader and mentor that influences and inspires you.
There are many other traps we can easily fall into as leaders and creatives, but you can begin to see how being mindful of just these three can save you time, resources and energy. The way I like combat and overcome these comparisons is by spending time getting to know myself more. Spending time brainstorming, meditating, working with a coach or a peer with the intention of gaining clarity and ensuring my actions match my purpose. There is magic in each of us, if we can remember that and follow our inner guidance, we will make a beautiful impact on a world that is ready to receive you!